I was reading a post from a couple of years ago about how Hollywood did something that made me reflect on how difficult parenting is. I can't even remember what it was that she did to earn a two week super grounding, my memory is that bad. As I was reading the post, I clicked through to the comments section. My mom wrote this comment in response:
It is said that good judgment comes from experience, and experience comes from bad judgment. All kids need the space to exercise bad judgment, hopefully in small matters, so they can gain the experience they need to have good judgment. And all you can do at those points is love them through and keep on swimming.I've read this comment over and over again. It's so true. Every word. Parenting is tough, yes. But I've been given a pretty solid advantage by being raised by someone with that amount of wisdom, don't you think?
Your grandmother used to say that when your children are little, they will step on your toes, and when they are bigger, they will step on your heart. I believe that the greatest gift a parent can give a child—and I think only the parents can really give this gift whole, is the bedrock belief deep within a child that she is loved. Standing on that foundation, she can experiment, make mistakes, and gain experience. Everything else is secondary to that foundation, and naturally flows from that love.
So keep on swimming, and love her through. She’s going to be almost as fantastic a human being as her mother by the time you get done with her—which, by the way, will be never.